I hate the way parents freak out about everything related to college and school. People say that Asian parents are the worst, but out of what I have heard of other parents, I have come to the conclusion that at times my parents are no worse.
As of now, with the Uni period, I spend three hours at school doing homework as I know that I wont be home till 7 or later every day. Sometimes things carry over, and I have to work in the evenings, but most of the time, I just sit around online and relax. My parents see this as me neglecting my work, and always say that I could be working harder or doing something productive. This morning, my SAT scores came in. I got a good score and I was happy about it, but my parents weren’t. I did not get a perfect score, and it did not matter how close I came, it still wasn’t a 2400. But what does it prove to have a perfect score? I still wont be the best, as there will be tons of other students out there that have 2400’s, and all that 2400 will give me is an end to the chance of improvement. Yes, if I wanted to go to a super selective school I would need to have the best of everything, but that’s not what I want. I want a normal life in a place that I will be happy in. Right now, to get that 2400, I would have to start a life that would take away my life as I know it, and in its place put a studious life lacking substance.
I know and understand that my parents want what is best for me, but in the end, would they rather have a daughter that spends hours in her room studying the dictionary or one that is active around the house and being a normal daughter? Personally, I think that the later would be best for all, but that’s just me, I guess.
I understand completely. My dad hid my PSAT scores from me and lied about it for a good week because he didn't want it to interfere with my finals studying. Thankfully, he didn't do the same for my SAT scores. However, he wasn't too pleased with them. They weren't awful, they were much like yours: good, just not 2400 good. Despite the fact that my SAT score is right on track for the colleges I'm planning on applying to, my dad is making me take an SAT/ACT class, and won't just leave me alone to study on my own. It's infuriating.
ReplyDeleteOne critique. Watch some of your contractions. Several times you wrote "wont" instead of "won't."
Otherwise, great post! Very relevant.
Junior year is a really stressful time for a parent-teenager relationship. My advice would be to advocate for your own happiness, and tell them what you were saying in the second half of your post, because sometimes parents don't understand what you want from your future.
ReplyDeleteMy parents are really similar as well, just not as vocal. I was quite happy with my scores, but when I told my parents the little hesitation that I saw from them made me feel like I wasn't good enough.
ReplyDeleteThe entire college process is really stressful and emotional, but like Claire said, just tell them how you feel. You should be dictating your happiness! Don't worry about what other people have to say. :)
I figure that it's never a good thing to designate all of your life to studying. You're still young. You should live a little. I think this is especially important in an academically rigorous environment like Uni.If your scores and grades are good, don't let your parents get in your grill.
ReplyDeleteugh i hate junior year is wear if my mom ask me one more time what i want to do with the rest of my life im going to scream! like i understand she wants the best for me but it almost feels like shes trying to live my life so i completely understand what you are feeling great post!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I believe that you should just do what you enjoy and hang out more with people. I made that mistake during my Uni career. Although there are only a few hundred perfect SAT scorers in the world, the admit rate for them at say...Harvard, is only about 40% — meaning that they must excel at many other things as well. Enjoy life and happiness will probably come naturally.
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